When you offer a massage to someone you care for, it fosters a deeper connection both physically and emotionally. It helps build trust and allows you both to be more open and vulnerable. As a result, you communicate better and feel closer to each other in every way.
With all that said, however, there is a right way and a wrong way to give a massage. If you’re a beginner, giving a massage might be a bit intimidating. To learn how to give your partner an unforgettable experience, read on, and don’t worry – it’s easier than you think!
1. Set the Mood
Your first step is an important one – you need to set the mood. From the aroma in the room to the level of lighting you use, it’s important to address every sensory aspect to ensure the right ambience is achieved.
Invest in a good essential oil diffuser and organic 100% natural essential oils, which are proven to relax the mind and body. Some common scents used in professional massage clinics include jojoba, rosemary, and lavender.
2. Location, Location, Location
Since you probably don’t have a professional massage table in your home, you’ll want to choose a location that’s comfortable for you and your partner. Nothing kills the mood faster than rolling off the couch or having to navigate around furniture or other items to be close to each other.
The bed is usually the perfect place for a couple’s massage because it’s comfortable, big enough for both of you, and it’s where you’ll want to be should the massage lead to anything else.
3. Use Massage Oil
Massage oil is designed to help your hands glide effortlessly over your partner’s skin. It also helps hydrate the skin, and if you choose carefully, can further entice the sense of smell. Be sure to choose a scent that’s not too overpowering since you’ll be using quite a bit of the oil for a full-body massage.
4. Don’t Assume You Know What Your Partner Likes. Ask.
Everyone is different, so don’t assume you know how or where your partner likes to be touched. It’s different strokes for different folks, as they say, so be sure to check in with your partner along the way. Have them rate the pressure of the massage on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being too much. Aim for a 6 or 7 and ask periodically as you move around their body.
Remember, you want your partner to enjoy their massage, so don’t forget this tip. Massage is meant to relax and bring the two of you closer together, not cause pain or leave your partner uninspired by your touch.
5. Learn a Few Basic Strokes
While no one is receiving an online review after a couple’s massage, it doesn’t hurt to know a few basic strokes to relax your partner and create a more loving connection between the two of you.
If you learn nothing else, the following three strokes should be in your massage repertoire.
Effleurage: long, gliding, slow strokes designed to spread oil across the skin and increase circulation.
Petrissage: deep, kneading strokes that help you identify knotted muscles and other “tight” areas.
Friction: a back-and-forth motion using the fingers and thumbs to work knotted muscles.
A partner massage not only induces relaxation but also builds a deeper connection both physically and emotionally. Use the tips above to give your partner an unforgettable massage.
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